Accept yourself, and then there will be no fear. Don't think in terms of shoulds and shouldn'ts and you will never be afraid. Be real and believe in reality, don't fight reality. If there is sex in it, it is there, accept it; if there is anger, accept it. Don't try to create the opposite: “I am angry, this is not good, I should not be angry, I should forgive. I am sexy, this shouldn’t be, I should be chaste.” Don't create the opposite, because if you create it, you are trying to create masks. Anger will remain, your forgiveness will be just a false face, sex will remain, sinking deeper and deeper into the unconscious, and your face will have the mask of brahmacharya. It won't help.
I heard that a scientist was working to unlock the secret of diamonds. He worked hard and was close to solving everything except one point. If he came to know this simple thing, he would become the richest man in the world. But no matter how hard he worked, he could not find this simple thing. Then someone advised him:
“You're wasting your time and your life.” I heard that in Tibet there is one woman who is very wise, she knows the answers to all questions. Go to her and ask her your question and she will answer. Why waste time?
The man went to travel to Tibet, but it took many years. It was very difficult to reach this wise woman. He went through many hardships and many times his life was in danger, but he got there. In the morning he knocked on the door, and the woman opened it. She was wonderful! He had never seen one like this before. And she was not only beautiful, but her whole being invited - there was a sparkle in her eyes - “Welcome!” She said:
- Okay, so you've arrived. My husband is not at home, and there is a rule: you can only ask one question, and I will answer you. Remember, just one question.
And the scientist blurted out:
- When will your husband return?
This is the only question he came to ask. Somewhere deep down in the subconscious, sex must be a problem. Working on the diamonds, searching for the secret of the diamonds must have been a distraction. Deep in his unconscious he must have been thinking, “When I become the richest man in the world, all the women—all the finest women will be mine,” although he may not have been aware of it.
Translated from Russian · original on wisdomlib.ru